For People Who Like to be Quiet

Dr. Kelly and I recently heard a speaker say that in the general population, 70% of people are considered extroverts and 30% of people are introverts, while in the gifted population, the split is more like 50/50. Some would argue that, at least anecdotally, those numbers may be even higher. What does this mean for you?

First, it helps to take a minute and think about what the difference is between an extrovert and an introvert. Extroverts draw their energy - renew their spirit - by being around others. Introverts need time alone to refocus, decompress, and recharge. You can see there's nothing here about being shy. You can be extroverted and shy - which might make the shyness very painful if you want to connect with other people, or you can be introverted and shy. But gifted people in much greater numbers need that space by themselves to think and gather themselves, and if that describes you then it's important that you know that about yourself.

One of the best ways to get an idea of what your personality type is is to take something like the Myers/Briggs Personality Inventory (look online for one that's quick and easy, such as http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/the-16-mbti-types.htm). It's not the same as going to a psychologist, but it will give you something to think about. 

Now, do you think you're an introvert? What does that mean for you? In the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, author Susan Cain discusses how American culture overvalues extroverts and undervalues introverts, leading to "a colossal waste of talent, energy, and happiness." You can also hear Cain discuss introverts in a great Ted Talk, https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts. 

What's the take away? Understand what makes you happy. Yes, you might still have to interact with people when you don't want to, but don't let others convince you that you have to be an extrovert to make something of yourself. Mark Zuckerberg, JK Rowling, Bill Gates, and Steven Spielberg, all famous introverts, can tell you that you can be wildly successful and still honor what you need to be at peace with yourself and the world.